“Unexpressed emotion will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. – Sigmund Freud
When I decided to write about this topic I was conflicted, conflicted because it was through mine own emotional turmoil and trauma that I experienced spiritual awakening. Taking my heart past the limit, I was so immersed in my emotional body that my heart couldn’t handle it. The pain and the inner turmoil were so intense that it felt like my chest was being ripped apart and it was on that day when I fell to my knees and surrendered to my pain, that I experienced spiritual awakening and enlightenment.
And so, I was conflicted, as I am living proof that if you take your heart to the limit and let it be your guide among st the trials and tribulations of the world, it will lead to you to the path you ultimately seek.
But then I realized, upon exploring the subject of emotional addiction, that no one should need to take the path, as I did. And that conscious evolution, and enlightenment will come much easier if we all had the proper teachings and tools.
And so, here are 3 Steps to Healing Emotional Addictions and Why it is So Important.
1. Do Away With Distractions
The television, the radio, the magazines and the social media sites (that aren’t teaching you anything). They are an emotional addiction and are there to keep your mind immersed in your body. These outlets want you to continue the cycle of thinking a certain way, causing you to feel a certain way, strung out in a feedback loop of negativity.
Think about your favorite song and how it makes you feel. Each song sparks an emotion within you, this emotion is triggered by a memory, the memory produces a thought and the thought generates a feeling. This all is the grand illusion that keeps you from the realization that you are a conscious creator. It keeps your mind immersed in your body of thinking and feeling and the cycle continues. This is the prime purpose of media. In fact, it is the number one sales strategy.
The more you engage in this cycle, the longer it will take to overcome your own emotional addiction to the pain and suffering in which you are experiencing.
2. Give it the Attention it Needs
It is common in hurtful situations to try to avoid the pain and stifle the memories. But by stifling the memories they will manifest negatively and cause havoc in other aspects of our lives. This being the number one reason it is essential to undergo inner child healing.
By accepting our pain and bringing our memories forward into conscious awareness they can be healed. When we can embrace our pain, we can then empower our own growth. We grow most through difficult experiences, so it is essential to embrace it as best you can. So sit with yourself, understand yourself, understand why you feel the way you feel, understand your pain and do not try to put on a false mask.
Once you have embraced your pain, now is the time to release the negative thought pattern and how to do that is by understanding this.
Each time we have a thought we create a chemical in the brain and thereby we create a chemical reaction. Alike to physical addictions we can become dependent upon the chemical reactions in our own bodies and we become used to feeling a certain way based on how we thinking and feel.
This is why, when seem to be stuck in negative thinking patterns that it is as difficult to break as a physical addiction. Our bodies become dependent upon the chemicals we have created. When you are aware of this function, you can then determine your course of action, and break the addiction.
By consciously changing the way we think we can reroute a self-defeating thought and create new and more positive chemical reactions in the body.
Author: LJ Vanier